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SEMAH is an online conduit for resources to  help build bridges to safer communities especially those that are not well served. We have a special focus on the Muslim and inter-faith communities.

SAFETY PLANNING FOR ADULTS

Meet with the person being abused and ask what he or she needs for physical and emotional safety, and spiritual well-being.  Consider bringing in an advocate from a local domestic violence or  sexual assault program to work with you.

 

Initial Assessment

  • Is the person in immediate danger? Has there been an acute  battering/assault incident? Is he or she injured? Does he or she need  immediate medical attention? (Victims of abuse often minimize the  severity of their own injuries and of threats made against them.)

  • Encourage seeking medical help, both for health reasons and for  documentation purposes. If there are any visible injuries, ask the  abused person if you can take photographs. Document non-visible injuries or health effects--such as internal pain, headaches, fatigue, or  depression.

  • If the person is not in immediate danger, what types of support does he or she need now? What types of support might he or she anticipate  needing? Assess current and potential dangers.

  • Is the person aware of the legal options? Explain the person's right to report the abuse, file a restraining order, and pursue criminal  and/or civil remedies. Explain how these options may offer protection.  Refer to local domestic violence agencies.

  • Does the person have a safe place to live? If not, help find  temporary housing in a local shelter or through another congregant, or  provide a hotel voucher.

  • Does the person need to relocate? If his or her whereabouts must  remain confidential, discuss ways to do this and how the congregation  can support the person.

  • Are there children involved? Are they safe? Is there child abuse  that needs to be reported to Child Protective Services? Explain that you are a mandated reporter of child abuse. Encourage the person to report  the child abuse him or herself. Let him or her know about legal  protections (such as temporary custody orders) to protect the children  from further harm.

  • Does the person have food, money, transportation? Assess what other  immediate needs could be met by the congregation, or by local resources.
     

Ongoing

  • Let the person being abused know that you are there for support,  regardless of what he or she decides to do. Also encourage and discuss  confidential counseling options such as a local domestic violence  program, rape crisis center, support groups, and therapists trained in  abuse prevention.

  • Discuss and write down safe options for obtaining important  documents or belongings that may be in possession or proximity of the  abuser.

  • Discuss and write down ways to protect oneself from being followed  and/or found by the abuser. This includes plans for school, work,  children's activities, attending community events, etc.

  • Ensure that the abuse survivor can safely participate in the  spiritual life of the community. Develop a congregational safety plan  that ensures the abuser will not attend any services, classes, or other  events that the survivor(s) might attend.

  • Develop a system to monitor the situation over time, so that the ongoing and/or changing safety needs are addressed.

  • If the person is continuing to live with the abuser discuss exit  plans for self, children, other household members and pets should  violence erupt.

  • Most importantly, ask the person what his or her needs are, and how  the congregation might be able to help. He or she is the best expert.

Checklist - What you should take when you leave

Identification

  • Driver's license

  • Children's birth certificates

  • Your birth certificate

  • Social security card

  • Welfare identification

Financial

  • Money and/or credit cards

  • Bank books

  • Checkbooks

Legal Papers

  • Your protective order

  • Lease, rental agreement, house deed

  • Care registration and insurance papers

  • Health and  life insurance papers

  • Medical records for you and your children

  • School records

  • Work permits/green card/visa

  • Passport

  • Marriage license

  • Separation agreement, divorce papers

  • Custody Papers

Other

  • House and car keys

  • Medications

  • Small sellable objects

  • Jewelry

  • Address book

  • Phone card

  • Pictures of you, children and your abuser

  • Children's small toys

  • Toiletries/diapers

  • Change of clothes for you and your children

  • For more information about your options and legal rights

  • Contact an advocate at a shelter or your local court. Fill in phone numbers of services in your area.

Battered Women's Shelters

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Police

Emergency __________________
Local Police __________________
State Police __________________


District Attorney's Offices

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Other important numbers

National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-SAFE
Rape crisis center _______________
Teen hotline___________________
Women's center ________________
Disabled abuse hotline ____________
Elder abuse hotline ______________
Child abuse hotline ______________
Other
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